learning from regret

Learning from regret is a theme that has been coming up in conversation for me recently. My biggest personal example of this is regret that I didn’t hold my daughter for longer the last time I saw her alive. She was reaching out for cuddles and I don’t even remember if I held her or […]

food anxieties come in all shapes and sizes

For many people, food anxieties are about control. Eating disorders are a way of controlling what goes into your body, when the world around you may not be allowing you to take control in other areas. But what about choosing to only consume certain things? Is that the same level of control issues cropping up? […]

gender vs sexual attraction

Someone on a thread on fb suggested that gender reassignment surgery was ‘gay conversion therapy’ and I was so confused by this suggestion that I had to do a bit of a write, to try and make sense of it. I am tired, I can do better, but it is a good start. Sexual attraction […]


Sidmouth folk festival was my second home for many years. Today I visited it for the first time outside of festival season. It was a beautifully sunny day, so it was very busy. Nowhere near as busy as festival time, but busy enough to remind me of it. Yesterday I was listening to a Russell […]